Comments on: Ask Dr. Helen: Single Men in Never-Neverland

By: Tommy

Tommy — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:55:53 +0000

A bad marriage is a lot like a business acquisition or merger that did not go well or the “synergies” of a combined company were never realized. Often somewhat successful company with good cash flow (i.e., the man) seeks to acquire a certain “prestigious” or “desired” product line (i.e., a woman) that will hopefully “enhance” the long term growth and prosperity. The acquired company (i.e., the woman) often does not have as good cash flow or profitability (women usually try and “marry up”). Just as in the case were the underperforming company often is drag on the formerly profitable company and the directors of the acquiring company realize that they were much more profitable before before the acquistion and would have been better off if they never made the acquistion, men who get married and then come to the conclusion that their lives were better off if they never got married it is too late. In other words marriage simply does not “add value” for men who: (1) have a high level of self-esteem; (2) are at least somewhat modestly successful in a career or business; (3) attain a certain level of personal fullfillment from various hobbies, interests and avocations; (4) do not define themselves by who they are with. In other words for men who bascially “have thier shit together” marriage does not “add value” to the quality of their lives.

By: Stychogedgecy

Stychogedgecy — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 11:56:49 +0000

What is bumburbia?

By: vamkino

vamkino — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 18:53:34 +0000

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By: Vitalikov

Vitalikov — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 19:40:20 +0000

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By: Taras

Taras — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 04:55:53 +0000

I’m a 42-year old divorced man, college educated with no kids and no desire to every marry again, at least an American woman ever again. Why? Because my now deservedly ex-wife typified everything wrong with women these days other posters covered in exhaustive detail. The animosity towards men. The greed, narcissism and no honor, integrity and responsibility. The fact that marriage is a losing proposition for men. Add to that the fact I found out she was a junkie, that she was also a lesbian and her hostility towards me. That in the face of the fact I was working in a dangerous occupation to pay the bills. That in the face of the fact I upheld my end of the bargain and then some, and was repaid with betrayal and worse. I will never forget that her kid tried to get me tossed in jail on a false accusation. She also used sex as a way to try to control me. I never cheated on her, but she evidently was in all likelihood cheating on me. This was not the first time contact with women left me very angry, disappointed, confused, or feeling mightily betrayed. I’m no saint, I know where my weaknesses are and I’ve been working to overcome many of them all of my life. I still feel anger towards my ex because of the betrayal on her part. I have never forgotten the stunts sever women have done to me, because of the incredible malice that motivated them, and to this day I have an intense dislike for all of them. Women forget that betrayal is something men never forget, and rarely forgive. Dr Helen, a lot of men are angry over the treatment they get at the hands of women with the state helping them destroy men’s lives and futures. I frankly as a result of my mostly bad experiences with badly behaved women do not like them anymore, and they clearly always despised me. I therefore avoid them because I don’t want to be around people who detest me only because I am white and male, and I just want to live the rest of my life in relative peace. The stress my wife put me through nearly killed me on the job. I’m not going to ever let a woman take what little I earned from me, let alone my freedom. In another time, I would have been glad to have married and formed a family, but today it’s frankly impossible for me and millions of other men. There is no one for us to marry, and I’m not going to have the wool pulled over my eyes ever again. Sorry girls, that one is on you!

Taras

By: Suelpehycle

Suelpehycle — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 21:42:46 +0000

Very usefull post, i think i will use it.
Thanks.

By: Michael

Michael — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 21:12:01 +0000

Marriage is a legal contract.

Would any sane person sign a contract without reading it first?

That is what is expected with the marriage contract. In fact, you can’t sign it, because is scattered throughout case law and legislation.

Imagine if you could actually read the marriage contract. No one would sign it.

Pre-nups are marriage contracts that both parties have actually read. That should be the case for marriage contracts as well.

Of course, some women would object that this is “unromantic”

By: Paulo

Paulo — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 23:11:53 +0000

I agree.

By: Knights13

Knights13 — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 04:39:02 +0000

“While I and many, many other men have figured out the scam/scheme called marriage whereby through the divorce process lawyers, judges, and all their minions have legally financially raped us men, there are still a few dolts out there who are unawares.”

You have a point. I disagree in the sense that some may be dolts but some may be just more confident and greater visionaries. There are ways to override and put all those obstacles in a loophole with you out of it. This all while having a wife at the same time.

Reminds me of a man telling me about marriage. He said: ” It’s like a bowl filled with shit and the top layer is honey. Once, you have ate the honey you are stuck with the shit”.

Then he goes sarcastically: “Do you see where I’m getting at?”

I told him; yes definitely. You got screwed on the deal. Next time keep your eyes open when purchasing things.

By: Alexander responding to Adri

Alexander responding to Adri — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 04:35:47 +0000

I am a male from Eastern Europe, who came to the states in the 50’s. I was married for about 10 years to a gal who was of Eastern European descent. We had a daughter together.

After being bludgeoned by the American Divorce Court System, I’ve found peace and happiness and contentment by staying away from the most dangerous person in the world; a woman!

You, Adri, talk about the lack of “commitment” by the opposite sex and are somewhat surprised. Why? How would you like to have everthing stolen from you by a corrupted court system which only cares about taking care of the woman and especially one with a child and financially rapes the man in the process.

Your last paragraph blaming the “modern day media and the products it flags” IMO is really just a symptom of a society hell bent on self distruction.

While I and many, many other men have figured out the scam/scheme called marriage whereby through the divorce process lawyers, judges, and all their minions have legally financially raped us men, there are still a few dolts out there who are unawares.

With some luck, and persistance on your part Adri, you could find one I’m sure. Good luck, because there are some men who still need to go through the Family Court System in order to obtain the reality check of their life!

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