Comments on: ‘Hooking Up’ Is Nothing New

By: Miklos Hollender

Miklos Hollender — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 23:34:14 +0000

Perhaps this is the reason that I’m, at 30, being celibate for the last 5-6 years… I just cannot imagine having sex without love. I don’t agree with the media stereotypes that all men are after having sex without strings attached… I for one am not. I need love to be able to do it. Sex without love is nothing, it’s like screwing an inflated doll, a wholly boring enterprise…

And love is very hard to get in the music clubs and music pubs of contemporary Britain… so I think I’ll just stay alone until people come back to their better selves.

By: Lincoln

Lincoln — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 15:52:29 +0000

There’s no sense in reasoning with dillweeds who are without a clue. I mean really, to imply that promiscuous sex (unprotected or not) is healthy and normal in the face of all the rampant STDs and sociological evidence to the contrary has got to be the stupidest thing I have ever read.

But you go enjoy plowing the field with your limpy noodle. I’m sure you’ll find a nice herpes infested girl someday who will help you appreciate the important things in life.

Happy New Year!

By: Snowman from Chicago

Snowman from Chicago — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 15:24:37 +0000

Lincoln,
Thank you for your deep and well reasoned response to my comments. You make my point for me.

By: Lincoln

Lincoln — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 22:36:40 +0000

From a male perspective, I would never consider a serious relationship with a girl who spread herself around like a cheap whore during her college days (and sees nothing wrong with it.) If she is willing to so freely offer herself as a sex toy to other men, it tells me that she doesn’t value herself enough to wait for the right person, and that there is no evidence whatsoever to indicate that she is desirous or even capable of staying in a monogamous relationship. Why would I want to be with anyone like that?

Oh and by the way Snowman: you’re an idiot. Go back to spanking your monkey over Glamour magazines, nimrod.

By: Snowman from Chicago

Snowman from Chicago — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 19:03:07 +0000

Are all of you seriously arguing AGAINST having consenusal non committed sex in collage? Most you you live in a world that is completely unconnected to reality. 15-70 year olds have sex. In most cases regular sex and always have. Religion has tried to stomp this out by forcing women into what can only be called slavery, preaching about an inevitable eternity in hell if you have pre-martial sex. When is everyone just going to grow up and accept that sex is a normal healthy part about being alive. All this B.S. about you give up a little of your self or you damage your ability to have long term relationships are all FALSE. That talk is just fear, uncertainty and personal doubt in the person exposing those views.

You know I go to sites like this on the left and right, and they are both stocked to the rafters with the radical crazies. I would say you should get to know some of those crazies on the opposite side of the issues because you will find that you all are EXACTLY alike aside of your perspective on a particular view.

By: vcb-tn

vcb-tn — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 09:03:27 +0000

when i see the word “hook-up”, i see two dogs stuck together at their asses.

By: kevin

kevin — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 04:33:16 +0000

i just want to be held

By: aclay1

aclay1 — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 18:49:00 +0000

As with all such justifications, this sounds great for the men and not so good for the women. Hooking up goes against female biology, making most women who engage in it less happy than they would be if they were in relationships involving intimacy. When looking to settle down, most men want a woman who is capable of stable, committed intimacy rather than one who is good in bed.

By: momof3

momof3 — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 18:26:58 +0000

Confused in VA, you need some serious help if you think ANY thought goes into hooking up. Do you think your (or any) young “adults” (quotes because how can one be an adult without any responsibility??) sit aorund and say “gee, a boyfriend might take my attention away from my studies, and I really want to be a Dr. I think I’ll just f*ck a cute guy I meet tonite to clear my head, and then on to class.”????

Condoms have about a 80% protection rate for HIV. That means they do NOT protect against HIV 1/5 of the time. HIV is most contagious before the infected person knows they have it or show any signs. That doesn’t even count herpes (painful sores on your privates your WHOLE life!) or HPV, which can cause cervical cancer and kill you. I slept around a fair amount, have only HPV to show for it even with condoms, and am grateful that’s all I caught.

Besides, and I’ll date myself here-anyone remember that delicious sense of being SOO turned on your couldn’t stand it, making out with your BF? And ONLY making out? SO much of the greatness of sex is the build-up, the anticipation. That lasts what, now, the time it takes to drink a beer?

Never mind the possibility of pregnancy and the certain fact that no hook-up will be around to help raise the kid, if the girl doesn’t decide to save herself the “trouble” and kill it. Kids don’t really need fathers, after all, right? The current single-mommy generation is doing just fine, poverty and drop-out rates notwithstanding. Sure.

And, from my perspective, most hook-ups aren’t good in bed and are no more likely to be so when they finally marry. Being good requires communication and caring what your partner wants. Most hook-ups are there to get off, period. That’s why the only 19% orgasm rate for women in them.

By: Bilwick1

Bilwick1 — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 18:17:44 +0000

It’s simple. Dating is awful, but sex is great.