Chesler Chronicles

January 2nd, 2008 5:03 pm

Rest in Peace Dear Raheleh Zamani

It was snowing in Teheran when they hung the twenty seven year-old mother of two children earlier today in the notorious Evin Prison. From the moment she was arrested, she had not been allowed to ever see her children again. Her name was Raheleh Zamani and she had been married off when she was only 15 years old. The political campaign to halt or commute her execution failed.

This tragic story could easily be one of the tales in Marjane Satrapi’s film, Persepolis.

Raheleh had endured years of savage battering at her husband’s hands. He was a typical batterer in that the beatings intensified during her pregnancies. After giving birth two months ago, Raheleh was suffering from severe postpartum depression. And, her husband had begun to medicate her with mind-altering drugs. Listen to her describe what led up to her murder of her husband.

In court, Raheleh explained: “On the day of the incident, I got home and I saw a strange woman (there), who, upon seeing me, ran off into the bathroom. Shocked about this woman’s presence in my home, I confronted my husband. Mohamad yelled at me and told me that I was no longer of any use to him as a ‘woman’ since I had had two kids and he no longer found me attractive. When I got upset, Mohamad began beating me and threw me out of the house.”

Please understand: Raheleh had absolutely no recourse. Men are allowed to beat their wives. Men also automatically receive custody of their children when they divorce; for this reason, many Muslim women remain married despite serious abuse, other wives, and other lovers. Any normal human female reaction to such injustice or heartbreak would be seen not only as a female psychiatric problem, but also as a crime. Raheleh continues:

“I was extremely upset, but after a few hours I returned to my house and again asked Mohamad about the woman. Not only did Mohamad refuse to apologize for his actions, he actually threatened to kill me if I said anything to anyone about his extra-marital relationships. I was a mess. I could never have imagined that my husband would cheat on me or beat me so brutally only a month after I had given birth to our son. I was an emotional wreck; I was severely depressed; so when Mohamad gave me some pills that he said would calm my nerves, I took them.”

The pills apparently caused some kind of psychotic break. Raheleh found a steel pipe and began beating the “demonic monster” with it. It seemed that the “monster” kept on “coming after” her so she “fought back.” In that state, she still thought that the dead Mohammed was a “live demon who would repeatedly attack and abuse me.”

Despite all and any evidence of Raheleh’s altered state due to both postpartum depression and to Battered Woman’s Syndrome, Raheleh was found guilty of pre-meditated first degree murder and sentenced to death.

According to one report, “her in-laws watched the grim proceedings as she was hanged along with eleven other human beings.”

Until quite recently, America was not much more advanced than Iran in this area. Even today, most battered women who kill in self-defense are given life without parole; some are still sentenced to death.

However, in the 1970s, great progress was made in this area–all due to feminist activism. Let me recount four seminal cases that made headlines and case law. These stories are all but forgotten today.

In 1972, in Washington State, in her own home, Yvonne Wanrow, shot and killed an intoxicated man, William Wesler, who was also an alleged child molester. She was found guilty and jailed but was eventually freed by the Supreme Court of Washington State in a landmark decision about a woman’s right to self-defense.

In 1974, in California, in response to having been gang-raped, Inez Garcia shot and killed one of the men who had held her down–but she did so an hour later. She, too was first found guilty but was then freed by virtue of “insanity.” (Sometimes, a normal human response to being raped is considered “insanity.” That’s really crazy!)

Also, In 1974, while in jail in her North Carolina jail cell, Joanne Little, killed her jailor, Clarence Alligood, with his own pick-axe for trying to rape her. Little was acquitted.

And, in 1977, in Michigan, Francine Hughes, a battered woman, set her sleeping husband on fire. She was charged with murder. Her story was eventually made into a movie which was titled The Burning Bed, which starred Farrah Fawcett. (Hughes was found not guilty by reason of insanity–not an ideal conclusion but one that might have been true and one which saved her life.)

Each of these cases led to public feminist crusades, civil-rights political activism, (two of the women on trial were women of color who had killed white men), and to new case law. Americans learned, very much against their will, that a “reasonable” woman could not be expected to physically defend herself against a man who was armed with a weapon, or with military or police training, who was also a foot taller and a hundred pounds heavier than she was. In such cases, the courts would have to spell out different, gender-based standards for what constitutes self-defense.

We also learned that rape constitutes a psychiatric trauma with severe and long-lasting consequences and that women could rightly view rape as life-threatening and as such, were entitled do what they could to prevent it–even if it meant killing someone who had not yet–or who had just–raped you.

The Francine Hughes case taught us that, in their own homes, battered women are battered the way political prisoners are battered in police custody in a totalitarian state; that some battered women die from their physical injuries; that, surprisingly, battered women are in the greatest danger when they actually escape captivity. That is precisely when batterers most often kill their victims. Scoff if you will, but the cognoscenti now know that the only chance that a savagely battered woman might have of saving her own life is if she kills her batterer when he is helpless e.g. sleeping.

Sounds crazy, I know but there are so few shelters for battered women–the beds are always taken; and witness protection programs are not available to most battered women. Orders of protection are made of paper and do not stop speeding bullets.

Let me commend those Iranians who tried to save Raheleh’s life. As they say:

“May this be a reminder that these cases are indeed in need of our intervention. Hopefully, we can gather more support for those whose cases are still classified as urgent to avert a repetition of this horrific and tragic ending to a precious life.

May she now rest in eternal peace.”

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7 Comments

1. allahakchew:

I am so deeply saddened…may she rest in peace.
No words can express my anger about this.
Human Rights abuses need to stop..a wonderful young life was taken away for nothing…

Jan 2, 2008 - 6:54 pm 2. George Jochnowitz:

MEMRI (Middle East Media Research Institute) Report # 27 discusses whether the Koran, in verse 4:34, permits wife beating. The verse, on the surface, seems to do so, although many scholars say it should be interpreted differently.

Be that as it may, I know of no other religion that explicitly mentions wife beating and seems to tolerate it. Domestic violence may be found anywhere. Nowadays, however, it is taboo everywhere except in the Islamic world.

Jan 2, 2008 - 7:44 pm 3. JohnrRyan:

There are currently about 2000 women jailed in the USA for killing their husbands

Jan 2, 2008 - 10:40 pm 4. Eilish:

The heart just bleeds for this young woman and all those like her out there. As a mother, I hope someone, someday has the courage to tell her children the truth about their mother. If there was a daughter, the abuse would have easily spread to her as well. I pray some good will come out of this tragedy.

Jan 5, 2008 - 12:53 am 5. Zuber:

George Jochnowitz, pleased to read your comments while I would like to submit as following:
The Quranic verse reads as:
4:34 MEN SHALL take full care of women with the bounties which God has bestowed more abundantly on the former than on the latter, and with what they may spend out of their possessions. And the right­eous women are the truly devout ones, who guard the intimacy which God has [ordained to be] guar­ded. And as for those women whose ill-will you have reason to fear, admonish them [first]; then leave them alone in bed; then beat them; and if thereupon they pay you heed, do not seek to harm them. Behold, God is indeed most high, great!

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Prophet Mohammed’s(Peace Be Upon Him) teachings & elaboration on this topic:
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It is evident from many authentic Traditions that the Prophet himself intensely detested the idea of beating one’s wife, and said on more than one occasion, “Could any of you beat his wife as he would beat a slave, and then lie with her in the evening?” (Bukhari and Muslim/Books of Prophet’s PBUH teachings).
According to another Tradition, he forbade the beating of any woman with the words, “Never beat God’s handmaidens” (Abu Da’ud, Nasa’i, Ibn Majah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal, Ibn Hibban and Hakim, on the authority of Iyas ibn ‘Abd Allah; Ibn Hibban, on the authority of ‘Abd Allah ibn ‘Abbas; and Bayhaqi, on the authority of Umm Kulthum).
When the above Qur’an-verse authorizing the beating of a refractory wife was revealed, the Prophet is reported to have said: “I wanted one thing, but God has willed another thing – and what God has willed must be best” (see Manar V, 74).
With all this, he stipulated in his sermon on the occasion of the Farewell Pilgrimage, shortly before his death, that beating should be resorted to only if the wife “has become guilty, in an obvious manner, of immoral conduct”, and that it should be done “in such a way as not to cause pain (ghayr mubarrih)”; authentic Traditions to this effect are found in Muslim, Tirmidhi, Abu Da’ud, Nasa’i and Ibn Majah. On the basis of these Traditions, all the authorities stress that this “beating”, if resorted to at all, should be more or less symbolic – “with a toothbrush, or some such thing” (Tabari, quoting the views of scholars of the earliest times), or even “with a folded handkerchief” (Razi);
Some of the greatest Muslim scholars (e.g., Ash-Shafi’i) are of the opinion that it is just barely permissible, and should preferably be avoided: and they justify this opinion by the Prophet’s personal feelings with regard to this problem.(Quran Ref: 4:34 )
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As you will note the responsibility of taking care of the woman lies on the shoulders of the man, which means more than just being a bread winner.
Its very sad to learn the fate of Raheleh Zamani and the way her painful life ended, there is no justification for such actions in the light of Islamic Teachings & the revelation of Quran.

Jan 5, 2008 - 3:23 am 6. greenconsciousness:

“However, in the 1970s, great progress was made in this area—all due to feminist activism. Let me recount four seminal cases that made headlines and case law. These stories are all but forgotten today.”

In WI it was the Jennifer Patri Story – received nation-wide publicity – many feminist defense funds and a book written about it, now out of print. “Manslaughter: A True Story of Love Death and Justice in America” by Steven Englund (1983)ISBN 0-385-14589-6

Jan 6, 2008 - 10:10 pm 7. Laura:

One such woman faces a fate like Raheleh’s. Delara Darabi faces execution by hanging for a crime she didn’t commit. Having now spent several years in prison, she suffers from severe depression and has tried to take her own life. Her case has reached its final stage as it is now in the hands of Iran’s Chief Judge, Ayatollah Shahroudi. If he does not grant Delara a stay of execution, this girl will die. It is critical that we, as an international community observant to even the most basic human rights, pressure Ayatollah Shahroudi to ultimately let this innocent girl go.
Please visit savedelara.com for information on how you can help save this girl’s life.

Jan 7, 2008 - 2:49 am

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